Dealing with Temptation when You're Married

Dear Jolene,

I have been reading your various Biblical lessons on marriage and I can honestly say it's what saved my marriage. I applied Biblical truths that I read on your website and it changed my heart and attitude. I am grateful that the Holy Spirit is using you to reach many women and change lives for the better.

I am having a difficult time discerning whether or not I should stay at my current gym or cancel my membership and go else where. I want so much for God to work in this area of my life which is why I question leaving the gym. The situation at the gym is this....before having a strong relationship with Christ I acted like a wild child at the gym, flirting with other men and acting in a manner in a way that caused attention on me. Sadly I lost a few friends because of my actions. Many people have pulled away from me, even though I am now a changed person. It eats me up inside not having the friends I once had at the gym and being excluded from outside activities.

The other issue is this... I am strongly attracted to a fellow gym member (male). I have prayed to God to take the desire away. I have not and will not act upon my feelings towards this man. I find myself thinking about him way too much. I look forward to seeing this man at the gym. I don't really talk to this man and we workout on opposite sides of the room. My question is should I continue working out at the gym and praying for God to make the change. Or should I just leave the gym and go some where else?